How has the lock down changed my relationship with money?

I’ve always had a love, hate relationship with money. When I was younger I was always a spender, as soon as I got my pocket money it would be burning a hole in my pocket to be spent. I never thought about saving for the future because when you’re 10, you don’t. Having that bag of sweets and toy is far more important than thinking about how you will afford a house and a car. I got my first job when I was 15 and still prioritised spending over saving. I never thought about the future because it still seemed so far away that I had plenty of time to plan and worry about it.

After moving out for a bit when I was 19, when I was 21, I lived back at home for a couple of years. I found myself in between jobs after my apprenticeship ended and I couldn’t find anything else. With no income or savings but still the desire to go out and spend, I got my first credit card. It was easy enough to think that I would only use it when I needed to and pay it off as much as I could each month but when you’re young it doesn’t work as easily as that and I ran up my £500 credit limit only paying back the minimum each month which was all I could afford. Today, I have managed to pay it back, get everything under control and make sure that I always have savings in case of an emergency.

For the past few years, my relationship with money has gone from strength to strength but I still felt there was more I could do. I have a solid budget that we follow every single month, I check our accounts every few days to make sure bills come out on time, for the right amount and I make sure to put money into savings at the beginning of the month rather than at the end after we could have spent it all. But I still found that we weren’t saving as much as I thought we could, where was all our money going? I found out during lock down.

When everywhere is closed and you can’t spend any money, it doesn’t take much to realise where all your money was going. I spent a lot of time in lock down reflecting on our lives ‘before’ and what our lives might be like ‘after’. Before lock down, I would finish work, wander through the shops on my way to the car and easily spend £50 on some fancy toiletries, posh chocolates and something else I thought might benefit from having, Pretty much everything I bought was a consumable so I could tell myself that it was useful and I needed it. But did I really need it?

After a couple of weeks in lock down, I looked through our bank account and worked out how much money we had left in our budget. I had to work it out twice because I was sure I had missed something. The only things we had spent money on was food shopping and some jump leads as my car battery had died from not being used. My life wasn’t any less enjoyable because I hadn’t been able to go and spend money on some luxury things I thought I needed. If anything, it was more enjoyable because I valued the things I already had and I had more time to spend enjoying them. I got more pleasure from spending time in my garden and playing with my dog than wandering aimlessly around a shop, spending money that had taken me hours and hours to earn.

With all of the uncertainty for some people about jobs and being furloughed, I wanted to make sure that we were being smart with money throughout the lock down and saving as much as possible so if anything happened, we had a cushion to fall back on. By having this focus, and not having the option to go out and spend as easily, our savings grew and so did our quality of life. Before lock down, an enjoyable day out for me would have been wandering around a shopping centre buying things just for the sake of it. Now, I get more value from sitting in my garden reading a book, or listening to a podcast and baking something.

I can honestly say that a benefit I have taken from lock down is that I am living my life more intentionally, doing things I enjoy and that add value to my life. I’m not missing out by not buying the latest thing in the shops or by over consuming. I’m enjoying the simple things more, having more time for myself and valuing the little things. I’ve realised that while it’s important to have money and savings for an emergency, it’s less important to have it rule our lives and (as cliche as it is) the best things in life, really are free.

Published by Alexandra

Well being coaching. Lifestyle blog with new updates at 8pm every Monday night.

3 thoughts on “How has the lock down changed my relationship with money?

  1. This is so interesting! It’s great that the lockdown taught you something, sometimes we just need to take a step back (in this case, stay at home haha 😂) to realise how we’ve been living our lives without even realising it!
    I personally don’t spend much money if I’m in a shop, but I can be a pretty online impulsive buyer so the lockdown wasn’t really good for my finances 😂

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